Welcome to the Dance of Hearts™ Resource Page

We love to help couples connect, so we want to provide as many resources as possible to make that happen. Check back often more more resources, books, videos.

Cherishing List

This resource is one of our favorites. Each of you print out the list, circle your partner’s positive qualities and share. You could do this weekly or monthly to stay tuned in and to build your culture of fondness and admiration, coined by Dr. John Gottman as an important foundation of the Sound Relationship House model. You can never be too affirming of your partners positive traits!

PDF FILE - You are Cherished - Cherishing List

Boundaries

Boundaries are complicated and often misunderstood. This PDF file outlines important concept and action steps to get it right. Healthy boundaries are an essential part of emotional safety and secure connection. Boundaries are not walls that push others away, but clear expressions of what helps us feel respected, safe, and emotionally regulated in relationships. They allow couples to communicate needs, limits, and expectations with honesty and care, while also honoring the individuality of each partner. When boundaries are expressed clearly and respected consistently, they create greater trust, reduce resentment, and support deeper intimacy and connection.

PDF FILE - Boundaries

Emotion List

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Emotional intimacy grows when couples have the language to express what is happening beneath the surface. Many conflicts are driven not only by reactions, but by emotions that feel difficult to identify, understand, or communicate. Emotional literacy is the ability to recognize, name, and share emotions clearly.  This helps partners move beyond defensiveness and into deeper understanding, empathy, and connection. When couples can accurately express vulnerable emotions and attachment needs, conversations become less about blame and more about feeling seen, heard, and emotionally safe with one another.